T.I is number1 on the billboard charts for a reason. His number 1 single " Whatever You Like" is his ode to his long term girlfriend and mother of his last two children. T.I recites "Baby you can have whatever you like(you like). I don't know about yall but I defintely like the sound of that. He is not afraid to show how much his girl means to him by spoiling her with the finer things in life and he's talking about five million dollar homes and bentley's and such.
T.I not only wants to spoil her with material things he's offering her his time, late night sex whenever she wants it and he even goes as far as saying "Long as you got me you won't need nobody". Sounds a little like a control freak to me but I aint mad at you T.I. It's refreshing to see a rapper declaring his dedication to his woman. Tiny is doing something right.
Fellows yall can take some notes from T.I. There is nothing wrong with spoiling your woman and I know my ladies can attest to that. Anyways in general show your partner that they are special to you. I know everybody aint ballin like T.I but a nice candle lit home cooked dinner and flowers can go a long way.
Saturday, August 30, 2008
Friday, August 29, 2008
Michelle Obama
Michelle Obama is the epitome of grace, beauty and of course intellect. I am so proud that she is representing us so eloquently. Mrs. Obama I salute you. You are a such an inspiration to all woman and especially black woman.
We are often portrayed in the media as neck poppin, angry,having a attitude problem and uneducated. Mrs.Obama is a true representation of what many of us are. Strong, educated,passionate, deeply loyal and fiercely supportive of our men. Listening and seeing Mrs.Obama address the nation brought tears to my eyes. Mrs.Obama you are doing us so proud. Michelle Obama you are our First Lady.
We are often portrayed in the media as neck poppin, angry,having a attitude problem and uneducated. Mrs.Obama is a true representation of what many of us are. Strong, educated,passionate, deeply loyal and fiercely supportive of our men. Listening and seeing Mrs.Obama address the nation brought tears to my eyes. Mrs.Obama you are doing us so proud. Michelle Obama you are our First Lady.
Tuesday, August 19, 2008
Is It Impossible To Meet A Marriage Minded Man Today
I read a blog in one of my favorite blogs Baller Alert and the post was about a 30 something year of woman moving to Dubai to find a rich husband. She was tired of working as a legal secreatary for 15 years. She wanted to meet and marry a wealthy man and have the lifestyle she always dreamed about. Which made me think is it really that bad now that woman are moving to another country to meet marriage minded men. She felt the men in New York were just playing games and were not serious and in Dubai the men their hold a different set of values and were more marriage minded.
My girlfriend and I were just discussing the shortage or lack of serious minded eligible bachelors. She was saying how tired she was of meeting men who just wanted casual sexual relationships or had girlfriends and wives but did not chose to disclose that vital information and just wanted to have their cake and eat it too. I agreed with her as well but I believe woman are at fault as well. It is important for woman to express what they are looking for in a relationship. Do not feel like their is something wrong with letting a man know what you want. If he is scared off so what. You saved yourself the trouble of finding out later that he is not the man for you . Communication and honesty is key to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Ask the right questions to see if the man your dating is married or has a girlfriend. Look for signs as well. As woman we have woman's intuition so if something does not feel or seem right it probably isn't. Exercise caution and common sense.
Until next time, MUaH
My girlfriend and I were just discussing the shortage or lack of serious minded eligible bachelors. She was saying how tired she was of meeting men who just wanted casual sexual relationships or had girlfriends and wives but did not chose to disclose that vital information and just wanted to have their cake and eat it too. I agreed with her as well but I believe woman are at fault as well. It is important for woman to express what they are looking for in a relationship. Do not feel like their is something wrong with letting a man know what you want. If he is scared off so what. You saved yourself the trouble of finding out later that he is not the man for you . Communication and honesty is key to building a healthy and lasting relationship. Ask the right questions to see if the man your dating is married or has a girlfriend. Look for signs as well. As woman we have woman's intuition so if something does not feel or seem right it probably isn't. Exercise caution and common sense.
Until next time, MUaH
Sunday, August 17, 2008
Dear Kat,
I'm 25 years old and my problem is I'm not close to my Mom. My family is very dysfuncional and I live with them and it is very stressful. I am planning to move within the next 6 months because fincancially I cannot afford it yet because I am saving for a condo. I want to try to build a relationship with my Mom but she is so negative and it disrups my positive energy. I need some advice on how to salvage our relationship without driving myself insane.
Betty
Dear Betty,
You did not mention how she is negative but in any case she is your mother. You are living with her so you should be grateful that you have a roof over your head. If you are so stressed maybe you should nix getting a condo and just get an apartment. You sound very ungrateful. Talk to your mother and try to work things out. You only have one mother and tommorow is not promised.
Betty
Dear Betty,
You did not mention how she is negative but in any case she is your mother. You are living with her so you should be grateful that you have a roof over your head. If you are so stressed maybe you should nix getting a condo and just get an apartment. You sound very ungrateful. Talk to your mother and try to work things out. You only have one mother and tommorow is not promised.
He's Just Not That Into You
Ladies have you ever been with a guy who hardly returned any of your phone calls. When he did it was always the same tired ass excuse, "Ive just been so buzy". Granted we all lead very buzy, hectic lives and we tend not to return calls occassionally. But if this is done repeatly, you have to get a clue. If a man is truly interested in you he will make time for you and contact you. Trust and believe he is making time for someone and obviously it is not you.
Signs that a man is not that into you. You are the one doing all the calling. If a man is thinking about you he will want to call you. A man is always suppose to lead and a woman follows. He's not a gentleman and he doesn't open doors for you. You always initiate all the dates and pay for them as well. A man who is into you would feel insulted if you always paid. He tells you of his plans and never invites you to any of them. You don't know any of his family and friends. He forgets your birthday or doesn't buy you anything for it and this includes Valentine's Day or any other holiday. A man is suppose to make you feel special and spoil you occassionally, if he doesn't he's really not that into you. If a man exhibits any of these traits, get rid of him immediately.
Until next time, MUaH
Signs that a man is not that into you. You are the one doing all the calling. If a man is thinking about you he will want to call you. A man is always suppose to lead and a woman follows. He's not a gentleman and he doesn't open doors for you. You always initiate all the dates and pay for them as well. A man who is into you would feel insulted if you always paid. He tells you of his plans and never invites you to any of them. You don't know any of his family and friends. He forgets your birthday or doesn't buy you anything for it and this includes Valentine's Day or any other holiday. A man is suppose to make you feel special and spoil you occassionally, if he doesn't he's really not that into you. If a man exhibits any of these traits, get rid of him immediately.
Until next time, MUaH
Saturday, August 16, 2008
Dear Kat,
I recently stopped seeing a guy I was dating for 7 months. It was a mutual breakup because we lost interest in each other. Fast forward my best guy friend is interested in me and Im contemplating whether I should take it to the next level. We get along perfectly but I'm afraid it may ruin our friendship & I just got out of a relationship .. I'm not sure what I should do.
Confused
Dear Confused,
You stated that you recently broke up with your mate. I suggest you wait atleast 3 months before you jump into anything. Getting into rebound relationships is never healthy. Especially with one of your good friends. Give it some time and after if you still feel like getting involved go for it.
Confused
Dear Confused,
You stated that you recently broke up with your mate. I suggest you wait atleast 3 months before you jump into anything. Getting into rebound relationships is never healthy. Especially with one of your good friends. Give it some time and after if you still feel like getting involved go for it.
Monday, August 11, 2008
Options
As a female you always have to have options. Don't get caught out there without having a lineup. Dating is about getting to know each other and seeing if you are compatible with each other. You need to take your time to evalute each candidate to see if he fits well in your life and if he is deserving enough to take it to the next level. You should never limit yourself and just date one man because trust me he has his options as well. You also cannot afford to catch feelings quickly and get emotional. As woman we are naturally emotional creatures and if you want to win you need to be on point and be prepared. Your lineup should consist of very different men, personality wise and occupation. You don't want to confuse anyone and get caught out there. Also each men will bring something different to the table and expose you to different ideas and elements. Remember you have to kiss a few frogs before you find your prince. I'm in no way advocating sleeping with these men, simply dating. Do not get it confused. Always conduct yourself like the lady your momma raised you to be. Last but not least have fun and enjoy yourself. Do not rush anything and be yourself.
Until next time, MUaH
Until next time, MUaH
Sunday, August 10, 2008
Game
I know as women we have all come across men who try to game us. Be weary of men that have a tendency to brag about how much money they make and how they
want to do this and that for you. I believe that a man's word is his bond. Once he breaks that I have no faith or trust in him. If he promises you things repeatly and doesn't deliver drop him.. These men are just running game and just want to get between your thighs. If he can't win you over being honest then he suffers from insecurity issues and isn't worth your time. Also actions speak louder than words. I for one do not believe anything until it is done and neither should you ladies.
Until next time MUaH
want to do this and that for you. I believe that a man's word is his bond. Once he breaks that I have no faith or trust in him. If he promises you things repeatly and doesn't deliver drop him.. These men are just running game and just want to get between your thighs. If he can't win you over being honest then he suffers from insecurity issues and isn't worth your time. Also actions speak louder than words. I for one do not believe anything until it is done and neither should you ladies.
Until next time MUaH
Thursday, August 7, 2008
Dear Kat,
I'm a 30 year old, professional, single mother of a 7 year old son. The problem is my son's father is in jail & I have a problem with finding a good man to date & have a serious
relationship with. I stopped dating & just pray to God to send me a good man. I would like a positive male in my son's life but it seems like the guys I dated in the past were just a bunch of losers. Please tell me what I am doing wrong.
Lonely mother
Dear lonely,
First of all God only helps those who helps themselves. God is not going to just send you a man. You have to be in a position to meet single, educated, professional men. I suggest all the qualities you are looking for a mate make sure you have all these qualities as well. You will atttract whatever you give off. Join a charity, go to conventions, museums, etc and mingle. I am sure you will be able to meet new people & make friends. Do not rush anything & just have fun. Focus on being the best parent you can be for your son. Also enroll your son in activities like sports. music, art or any activities where a man is the head. Good luck & keep me posted.
relationship with. I stopped dating & just pray to God to send me a good man. I would like a positive male in my son's life but it seems like the guys I dated in the past were just a bunch of losers. Please tell me what I am doing wrong.
Lonely mother
Dear lonely,
First of all God only helps those who helps themselves. God is not going to just send you a man. You have to be in a position to meet single, educated, professional men. I suggest all the qualities you are looking for a mate make sure you have all these qualities as well. You will atttract whatever you give off. Join a charity, go to conventions, museums, etc and mingle. I am sure you will be able to meet new people & make friends. Do not rush anything & just have fun. Focus on being the best parent you can be for your son. Also enroll your son in activities like sports. music, art or any activities where a man is the head. Good luck & keep me posted.
Tuesday, August 5, 2008
Trust
Once your mate lies to you, will you ever be able to fully trust them again. Trust for many people is very difficult, especially when they have had problems with it in the past. What lies are lies that one cannot get past. I for one believe that we should forgive but proceed with caution. Everyone is entitled to a second chance. As humans we will make mistakes but if we make an honest attempt to make ammends for our mistakes we should be forgiven. After all it is written in the bible. Let me know your views by commenting.
Monday, August 4, 2008
Dear Kat,
I'm pregnant and I don't know who the baby father is. I recently broke up with my ex & had a one night stand with a random dude I met at a club. It was 2 weeks apart from my last encounter with my ex. Should I tell my ex its his & hope for the best or tell him the truth..I don't believe in abortion so I am going to raise my child.. It will be my second. My daughters father died 2 years ago & she is 5 yrs old.Please help!!
Confused & pregnant
Dear Confused,
Bringing a child into the world in a deceiful manner will do you no good. I suggest you tell your ex the truth & also your one night stand. You reap what you sow & honesty is always the best way to handle things.. Give your ex the option of being there for you. If he is a good man he will be supportive if not be woman enough to handle your responsibility until a paternity test can be taken. I also suggest you get yourself checked for STD's. Condoms are your friend use them..I would advise in the future not to engage in random sex acts as we have AIDS running rampant.. Also engaging in promiscious behavior is a sign of a bigger problem.. Know your worth as a mother & a woman .. Love yourself & please behave more responsibily. I suggest you read Maya Angelou's Gather Together in My Name.. Good luck & let me know how everything goes..
Confused & pregnant
Dear Confused,
Bringing a child into the world in a deceiful manner will do you no good. I suggest you tell your ex the truth & also your one night stand. You reap what you sow & honesty is always the best way to handle things.. Give your ex the option of being there for you. If he is a good man he will be supportive if not be woman enough to handle your responsibility until a paternity test can be taken. I also suggest you get yourself checked for STD's. Condoms are your friend use them..I would advise in the future not to engage in random sex acts as we have AIDS running rampant.. Also engaging in promiscious behavior is a sign of a bigger problem.. Know your worth as a mother & a woman .. Love yourself & please behave more responsibily. I suggest you read Maya Angelou's Gather Together in My Name.. Good luck & let me know how everything goes..
Sunday, August 3, 2008
Dating
Its your first date and your getting ready for your first night out..What are you going to wear.. On your first date you want to leave a good impression.. Remember what your mother told you..No man will bring a hoe home to meet his Mama..First impressions are very important.. You want to be sexy but conservative at the same time.. So showcase 1 of your best assets & never more than one..Ex legs, breast or rear.. If you wear a skirt or dress make sure its no shorter than above the knee & cover your chest & nothing tight. Wear neutral colors & nothing to buzy & definitely no mini skirts or booty shorts..It you want to show a little cleavage balance it out with a jacket or sweater with loose wide leg pants.. Have perfectly coiffed hair no ghetto hairstyles with gel & funny colors..Keep it simple &
neat.. Have perfectly manicured nails & no ghetto tips with crazy designs..Use one color polish or a french manicure..Remove all hair frm your body except for what's on your head..Have your eyebrows waxed, tweezed or threaded.. Wear simple jewlery preferably pearls or a simple chain with a small pendant.. Shoes should always be heels it gives your butt an 2 extra inches & a nice switch.. Read up on pop culture so you can have topics to discuss... Most importantly be honest & be yourself..If a man ask you out he pays if you do offer & be prepared to pay but a true gentleman will pay if he doesn't lose him.. Make sure you end the date at the end of the evening..Absolutely no sex..Wait aleast the appropriate 3 months or longer if your still not comfortble.. If you want a man to respect you & treat you like a lady act like one.. You show a man how to treat you so behave accordingly..Get to know him & let him get to know you.. Take your time & be patient their is no rush.. Be sure he courts you & not just the first couple of dates.. Remember these tips it will set the foundation on how a man will treat you.. Good luck..
Til next time.. MUaH
neat.. Have perfectly manicured nails & no ghetto tips with crazy designs..Use one color polish or a french manicure..Remove all hair frm your body except for what's on your head..Have your eyebrows waxed, tweezed or threaded.. Wear simple jewlery preferably pearls or a simple chain with a small pendant.. Shoes should always be heels it gives your butt an 2 extra inches & a nice switch.. Read up on pop culture so you can have topics to discuss... Most importantly be honest & be yourself..If a man ask you out he pays if you do offer & be prepared to pay but a true gentleman will pay if he doesn't lose him.. Make sure you end the date at the end of the evening..Absolutely no sex..Wait aleast the appropriate 3 months or longer if your still not comfortble.. If you want a man to respect you & treat you like a lady act like one.. You show a man how to treat you so behave accordingly..Get to know him & let him get to know you.. Take your time & be patient their is no rush.. Be sure he courts you & not just the first couple of dates.. Remember these tips it will set the foundation on how a man will treat you.. Good luck..
Til next time.. MUaH
Always the bridesmaid never the bride
August 3, 2008 - Sunday
Do you find yourself wondering why other women are able to snag a good husband and you can't even land a date.. Don't kid yourself & use the typical excuse that there are no good black men available.. With a defeated & pessimistic attitude like that you are setting yourself up to remain alone.. Their is nothing wrong with being single if that is truly what you want but if you want to land a
worthwhile mate follow my tips.. First work on your inner issues & insecurties.. Work on your self esteem.. Build your confidence and know that you deserve a good man.. Pamper yourself.. Go to the spa & get yourself a deep relaxing body massage, facial, manicure & pedicure..When you look good you feel good.. Join a gym & work out.. It will ease your mind & body of life's daily stress & keep your body tight & sexy.. If your not in a spiritual insitution join one..You need God in your life to help you when your in doubt & need spiritual guidance.. Read the Bible.. Go to museums, conventions, lectures anything to expand your mind.. Broaden your horizons..Read literture & keep up with current events & pop culture.. Once you have your inner issues resolved you can begin dating.. Most importantly love yourself and know your self worth.. Do not settle for anyone who is less than a gentlemen..
Til next time MUaH
Do you find yourself wondering why other women are able to snag a good husband and you can't even land a date.. Don't kid yourself & use the typical excuse that there are no good black men available.. With a defeated & pessimistic attitude like that you are setting yourself up to remain alone.. Their is nothing wrong with being single if that is truly what you want but if you want to land a
worthwhile mate follow my tips.. First work on your inner issues & insecurties.. Work on your self esteem.. Build your confidence and know that you deserve a good man.. Pamper yourself.. Go to the spa & get yourself a deep relaxing body massage, facial, manicure & pedicure..When you look good you feel good.. Join a gym & work out.. It will ease your mind & body of life's daily stress & keep your body tight & sexy.. If your not in a spiritual insitution join one..You need God in your life to help you when your in doubt & need spiritual guidance.. Read the Bible.. Go to museums, conventions, lectures anything to expand your mind.. Broaden your horizons..Read literture & keep up with current events & pop culture.. Once you have your inner issues resolved you can begin dating.. Most importantly love yourself and know your self worth.. Do not settle for anyone who is less than a gentlemen..
Til next time MUaH
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