Always the bridesmaid never the bride

Do you find yourself wondering why other women are able to snag a good husband and you can't even land a date. Don't kid yourself & use the typical excuse that there are no good black men available. With a defeated & pessimistic attitude like that you are setting yourself up to remain alone. There is nothing wrong with being single if that is truly what you want but if you want to land a worthwhile mate follow my tips.

First work on your inner issues & insecurties. Work on your self esteem. Build your confidence and know that you deserve a good man. Pamper yourself. Go to the spa & get yourself a deep relaxing body massage, facial, manicure & pedicure. When you look good you feel good. Join a gym & work out. It will ease your mind & body of life's daily stress & keep your body tight & sexy .

If your not in a spiritual insitution join one. You need God in your life to help you when your in doubt & need spiritual guidance. Read the Bible. Go to museums, conventions, lectures anything to expand your mind.. Broaden your horizons. Read literture & keep up with current events & pop culture. Once you have your inner issues resolved you can begin dating.  Most importantly love yourself and know your self worth. Do not settle for anyone who is less than a gentleman.

Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama is the epitome of grace, beauty and of course intellect. I am so proud that she is representing us so eloquently. Mrs. Obama I salute you. You are a such an inspiration to all woman and especially black woman.

We are often portrayed in the media as neck popping, angry,having a attitude problem and uneducated. Mrs.Obama is a true representation of what many of us are. Strong, educated,passionate, deeply loyal and fiercely supportive of our men. Listening and seeing Mrs.Obama address the nation brought tears to my eyes. Mrs.Obama you are doing us so proud. Michelle Obama you are truly our First Lady.

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Bipolar Disorder

Bipolar disorder (also called manic depressive illness) is when you have periods of depressive symptoms that alternate or may co-exist with periods of mania. Symptoms of mania include abnormally high levels of excitement and energy, racing thoughts, and behavior that is impulsive and inappropriate.
I decided to write this post to educate people on the symptoms and why explain why they should seek treatment. Hopefully someone will read this post and realize they suffer from this and consult a health care provider. The sooner treatment is sought the sooner they can be on the road to recovery.

Depression

Depression is a medical condition that affects nearly 21 million American adults each year, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Mood, thoughts, physical health, and behavior all may be affected. Symptoms of depression commonly include:
Persistent sad, anxious, or "empty" feelings.
Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism.
Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness.
Restlessness or irritability.
Loss of interest or pleasure in activities that the person once enjoyed.
Fatigue and decreased energy.
Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and/or making decisions.
Insomnia, early–morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping.
Overeating, or appetite loss.
Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts.
Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease with treatment.
Depression comes in several forms and its symptoms and severity can vary from person to person.
Depression is not something that one should be ashamed of, if you or someone you know exhibit any of these symptoms please seek treatment or help that person get the help that they need. If depression is not adequately treated, it can become severe and, in some cases, may be associated with suicide.

Golddiggers

I recently read a book about women who aspired only to marry wealthy men. In the book the women were villified and were looked upon as imoral for their preference.
Is it morally wrong to want to marry a man with a sizeable bank account and has social economic status. If a woman has a preference for a wealthy man is it any different from a man who has a preference for beautiful women, or a college educated professional woman.
Some may argue that if a woman only wants to marry a man who is wealthy, she would eventually leave him if he ever loses his money. Some would also argue that she is just using him for his wealth.
It is just as easy to fall in love with a wealthy man as with a poorer man. Everyone is entitled to have a preference and who are we to judge what people like. As long as you are honest and not trying to misrepresent yourself I see nothing wrong with it personally. I respect all different viewpoints and welcome your feedback. Please comment and let me know what your stance is on this subject.

Having a Man Does Not Define Who We Are

It is very critical for women to know their worth. Some women are content just to be in a relationship even if they are not happy, just for the sake of saying they have a man.
Having a man does not define who we are, we are just as intelligent and beautiful being single. Please do not settle for any man or remain in a relationship where you are clearly not happy.
We need to have a loving and positive relationship with ourselves before we can have it with a man. Having self worth and self love will save us so much unnecessary heartache. When we are content at being by ourselves, enjoying it and finding fullfillment with our own company. We will have that confidence and natural air about ourselves that will attract positive and great men. Men love confident and self assured women.
Once we have that we will radiate that and the negative men who cross our paths will sense that and keep walking.

Dear Kat,

I really hope that you can help me. I was seeing a guy for about 4 months and I broke up with him the other day. We were friends for about 10 months. We had our ups and downs but for the most part I thought that he really cared about me until we broke up. He told me he was seeing another girl & I flipped out after hearing this & severed all ties. Should I respect the fact that he was honest for telling me or be upset because we had sex the other day & I feel used & disrespected.

Signed
Disrespected

Dear Disrespected,

Be glad that he was honest with you. Be happy and enjoy life, there are many men out here. Don't sulk over no man.
He obviously was not the right man for you, get over him and move on. You will be much happier when you do.